12-03-19

Happy Tuesday, Charlie!

Sorry that I missed the last two posts, I promise to be better about it. There’s just been a lot going on. :)

I hope that you had an awesome Monday! I’m glad that your therapy appointment went well, and that Amy was okay with me sitting in on it. I think that you two will get along just fine, once you get to know her a little better. I know that it’s hard to spill your guts to someone you don’t really know, but, that’s kind of the whole point… that it’s her JOB to help you feel better, and get better. <3

I’m glad we took the time to meet for food and coffee after you got out of school. I hate that it has to be some big secret, so that you don’t get in trouble with mom, but, having things do do other than just school and sitting on your phone while your at mom’s is really important. I wish that she realized that.

Sorry that the concession plan won’t work out for tomorrow, but, we can still hang out at the game, if you want to. I’ll be there by 6:15-6:20p. If you were to walk from school, I’m sure there’d be folks for you to hang with? OR, maybe you see if Marissa wants to come with you? I could drop her off at home after? Or, you could ask mom to, since you’ll be going home with her. :) We can try to figure it out before tomorrow afternoon.

I hope you have an awesome day today, and I’ll talk to you later. Love you billions,

-Dad

Park

Park

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12-02-19

Charlie,

Ooof, no post today, sorry kid. There’s still a new photo and song of the day, tho! I miss you lots, and love you tons!

Love,

-Dad

BR

BR

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11-23-19

Happy Saturday, Char!

I hope that you had an awesome Friday yesterday! I’m not happy that Mom made y’all miss school again, and angry that she screamed at you for not knowing how to do something that nobody’s ever taught you how to do. It’s not your responsibility to start the car, make coffee, or get yourself up for school. I hope that you understand that, and aren’t being told otherwise. If it’s something that you’re interested in, I can teach you how to start the car, but, only if you want to, and only to keep your from getting screamed at, not because it’s something you need to know yet. I hope that you didn’t miss anything significant at school Friday, like any tests or anything. Let me know, if so, and I can reach out to your teachers, and make sure you get a chance to make them up, if so.

I still haven’t heard anything back from Aunt Dani, so, I’m guessing that CA is a no-go. We’ll need to all talk together, and decide whether we want to skip a trip, or find somewhere else to go instead. Unfortunately, I think that if we still took a road trip somewhere, we’d kinda be forcing it, and just going somewhere to go, and wouldn’t really have a good destination. I’m still open for discussion about it, tho. I’m not really pumped on celebrating Thanksgiving, and haven’t been for a long time. Maybe we change our family tradition to celebrate something else, in it’s place. Come up with a new title, cook a different type of food, etc. I won’t force that, but, we can at least talk about it. :)

I hope that you have something planned for your Saturday, and don’t spend the whole day sleeping and playing on your phone. I’m going to try to get out to IKEA today, to replace the lamps. While I’m there, I’m going to look at chairs, and see if we can replace the living room recliner, or, if it’d just be better to keep the empty space for now?

Lastly, I want to talk about an idea I had, about separating our time here, when you’re all home. Instead of trying to force family time, and having it turn into endlessly searching for a good movie to watch, or wasting time waiting for everyone to end up in the same room together, we can talk about some other ideas. With a seven day week, we could each spend two days together, then have one family night, or, something similar. Something we can discuss, at least.

Love,

-Dad

FoodFriends

FoodFriends

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11-21-19

Good morning, Sugar.

I know that last night was really, really hard, again. I’m so sorry for the way that things turned out. If I’d had any idea that things would have turned out like they had, I would have handled things differently, somehow. We need to find a way through all of the gaslighting, so that you three girls can all know, and be comfortable in the fact that you aren’t doing things wrong, and shouldn’t be in trouble for normal things that people do every single day.

I want you to try to remember these things:

  • Mom had Thea ask me to pick you up from school (with only 15ish minutes notice).

  • She asked not because she was working, or busy, but because she was taking a nap.

  • We went to get your school project supplies, because you didn’t trust her to follow through.

  • I bought you new clothes, again, because mom said she would, but never followed through.

  • I made sure you had dinner, because you said that she has no groceries or food.

  • You asked mom if you could stay the night, after they ordered pizza without you.

  • When mom said “no”, she was furious with you, and the fact that you were sad and upset, only made her angrier.

Now, I need you to really think about all of those facts, and try to tell me, for normal, healthy people… what part of that entire set of details would have made sense to be angry about? The correct answer is nothing that you did. I know that you likely know all of this, but, I constantly need to hammer it home, so that you remember, that none of this is normal, and you didn’t do anything wrong. You’re a good kid, and I don’t want you to learn to be wary of, and constantly worried about making people upset, for doing completely normal things. It wasn’t wrong to ask. It wasn’t wrong to be disappointed in her answer.

This coming week will be much better, I promise. I’m so, so sorry last night turned out like it did. On the bright side, I had a ton of fun hanging out with you, as always. I hope that your today is better, and I’ll be around if you need anything. I miss and love you a ton.

Love,

-Dad

;)

;)

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11-19-19

Happy Tuesday, Charlie!

Ooof, no post today, sorry kid. Had a busy morning with tons of calls to make, but this should be the only missed post for the week. I miss you lots though!

Love,

-Dad

Snuggles

Snuggles

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11-20-19

Happy Wednesday, Charlie!

I’m so sorry about the fight you got into with Mom yesterday, and that she wouldn’t let me pick you up from School on Monday. There’s a weird difference that I don’t understand, in that she’ll let me pick Phoebe up when she asks, but not you. I don’t understand why, but, I’m sorry. As far as the fight is concerned, I’m really sorry that it happened, and I wish she were more able to understand why you were upset. For the first time that I can recall, she messaged me after you left, and asked what she should do. I told her to try to see things from your perspective, and apologize. To let you cool off, then try to have a calm conversation with you. Hopefully, she tried that. I hope that you understand that when it comes to a situation like that, your opinion is still valid, and it isn’t a situation in which she’s right, just because she’s the parent. You deserve the ability to tell a parent when something makes you uncomfortable, even if it’s something that that parent is doing.

Anyway, it was too late to message you after we’d gotten off of the phone, but I talked to Aunt Danielle last night, for a little more than two hours. We got caught up, and I pitched the Thanksgiving idea. She seemed really disappointed that Uncle Derek didn’t want to come, but, I might talk to him again, and see if maybe I can sway the tides, and mayyyybe even have everyone all together at once. It’s a long shot, but not entirely impossible. She’s going to talk to Toby, and see if they’re up for any type of Thanksgiving gathering. We’ll have to toy with dates, and make sure we work in something for your birthday, even if it isn’t ON Thanksgiving. This whole thing is going to take a LOT of planning, driving, money, and effort, so try to be patient, and bear with me. We’ll need to discuss, as a family, whether or not we want to try to swing by Christy’s for a quick visit, and where we’re going to try to stay once we get to CA. I don’t THINK Nanny will have any interest in seeing me, but, I would like to try, if y’all think it’s a possibility. I’m less interested in seeing Nanny than Granddan, but still. If everything works out, we can let Sarah know we’re in town, too, and let her know that you all would like to see her.

Anyway, I hope that you have a fantastic day today at school, and after. I miss you a whole, whole bunch, and love you a million billion.

Love,

-Dad

Slaps

Slaps

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